When trying to figure out what to text a girl you like, there are 7 pitfalls that you should keep in mind. Most guys screw up their chances of attracting a girl by committing one or more of these 7 mistakes, but after you read this article, you will never be one of them.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall #1: Don’t Try To Impress Her Through Text
Don’t try to write a bunch of things about yourself that you think is going to impress her. Save the long war stories, accomplishment list, and general DHV’s (demonstrations of higher value) for when you two are face-to-face or on the phone.
The purpose of texting is to flirt, build comfort, and be playful. Writing long messages that boast about yourself will not only not impress her, but it will make you seem insecure.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall #2: Don’t Write Super Long Text
This rules ties in with the last one. Remember, the person who invest the most effort into the texts is the one that’s most invested in the interaction. By writing super long text to her, you are only showing that you are overly invested in her and that often comes off as needy.
Try to keep your texts short and concise. The impression you are trying to sub-communicate is that you are a busy guy who almost don’t have time to text her.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall #3: Don’t Ask Too Many Boring Questions
She is use to guys asking her all kinds of generic questions so you definitely don’t want to come off as just another guy. Plus too many questions are annoying.
Instead, phrase your questions in a more interesting way. For example, instead of, “Hey, what’s up?” you could say, “Hey brat, what are you doing…besides obsessing about me? lol ”
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 4: Avoid Slangs, Abbreviations, Or Misspellings With Foreign Women
If the girl is foreign and doesn’t speak perfect English, try no to use any slangs or abbreviations that might confuse her. Be a little more basic and to the point.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 5: Don’t Multi-Tread Your Text Messages
A lot of guys will ask multiple questions in the same text like, “What are you doing tonight? Oh, btw, how’s was work?”
This is called multi-treading and what usually ends up happening is that girl will respond to the last question and ignore the first one. And if the first question is something important, well then you’re just out of lucky.
So don’t multi-tread. Wait until she answer your first question before asking the second one. Just remember to keep your generic questions to a minimum.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 6: Be Sure To Sign Your Name In The First Text That You Send Her
If the girl didn’t save your name on her phone she might not know who you are, so be sure to sign your name at the end. You might also want to add a little descriptor of yourself like, “Joe from the concert.”
By doing this it avoid the awkward “Who is this?” text that can kill some of the momentum.
Deadly Girl Texting Pitfall # 7: Avoid Using Too Many Capitalization
Excessive caps and punctuations like exclamation marks and question marks can make your messages seem overly excited. This can come of as needy, so try to keep the caps and heavy punctuation to a minimum.